6 Ways to Be a Good Guest

Even at the most casual parties, there are some things a polite guest should do:

1) Tell your host whether you're attending.  And do it immediately.  If you delay your reply, you could hinder the host's planning and also make it seem as if you're waiting for something better to come along.  Even if no RSVP has been requested, it's thoughtful to let your host know if you won't be able to be there. 

2) Be on time.  Punctuality means different things to people in different locales, but in general guests should arrive at or shortly after (usually only fifteen minutes) the time stated in the invitation.  Do not, however, arrive early.

3) Be a willing participant.  When your host says that it's time for dinner, go straight to the table.  If you happen to be asked to participate in a party game or view Susie's graduation pictures,  accept graciously and enthusiastically no matter how you really feel.

4) Offer to help when you can.  If you're visiting with the host in the kitchen as he prepares the food, be specific when you offer to help:  "I'd be happy to work on the salad or fill the water glasses."  Even if your offer is refused, your gesture will be appreciated.  When the party's end draws nigh, you could also offer to help with the cleanup.

5)Don't overindulge.  Attacking finger foods as if you haven't eaten in a week will not only attract the wrong kind of attention, it will also leave less food for other guests.  Also be sure to keep any consumption of alcoholic beverages on the moderate to low side.

6) Thank the host twice. In some parts of the United States, a second thank-you by phone is customary the day after the party (the first having been delivered on leaving the party) - a gesture that's gracious anywhere.  If the party was formal, written thanks are in order.  In fact, a written note is always appreciated - even after casual parties.